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Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Good Night Tiny Papa
As of 10:27 pm we have 664 hits. I won't do a state by state update until tomorrow.

I will say we did get out of the house for dinner this evening. It was planned last week as a celebratory dinner with Kathou and Paypay, but unfortunately we didn't have much to celebrate. What we did celebrate is that the restaurant we went to had fantabulous drinks! 2 Vodka Collins, 2 glasses of wine and 2 glasses of port is enough to make anyone celebrate. Needless to say a good time was had by all.

I would like to shift gears for a moment though. Our phone did ring at about 10:00 tonight. For a brief moment we were all excited. But, the excitement was not to last. It was my Mom. She informed me that my Tiny Papa (aka: Great-Grandfather) was very sick and likely to not make it through the night. Of course Kathou and Paypay were here and rather than sit around and cry about it I told them about my Tiny Papa. I pulled out the photo album to show them photos. About 20 minutes later the phone rang again. This time we knew who it would be. My Tiny Papa passed slowly into the night, surrounded by his family. He was 97 years old (i think).

While I am saddened by his loss I cannot help but think about the joy he has brought me over the years. There aren't many people who could say they actually knew one, or more, of their great-grandparents. In the end I think Tiny Papa stood all of about 5 feet tall. In his younger years he was a boxer and worked on the railroad in Everett, WA. Quite the barrel shaped man and in full control of his mind until very recently. He love to play checkers and his favorite Christmas gift was always a bottle of Scotch. Good man. My fondest memory of him was his basement in their house in Everett. Tiny Papa was an inventor. He was forever modifying something to make life easier. His greatest "invention" was the exercise bike sander. He somehow rigged a stationary bike with a block of wood under it that slid back and forth. You put whatever you wanted to sand under the block and start riding. WaLa! Sanding done. And you get your workout in too. He was handy like that.

I could tell you so many stories about Tiny Papa. His love for his beautiful wife. How he'd jingle his pocket and slip my cousins Zach and Tyler money. How he always knew CS's name. He was a great man who lived a long and great life.

So no boo hoo here either. I don't believe death is something where we mourn someone's loss. It is more of a time to celebrate their life and come to realize how much they really mean to us. How this one life impacted our own. So we'll have a Coffee Talk discussion.

Topic:
Did you ever know any of your Great-Grandparents. If so what did they mean to you. If not tell us about a relative who impacted your life for the better.
19 Comments:
Blogger 6blessings said...
Sorry for your loss, especially at this time.

I didn't really ever know any of my great-grands. My kids, however, have been blessed to know many of theirs. They still have two of them left. My gma is 91 and doing okay. We don't get to see her much. We live too far away. D's gpa is 98, sharp mind still going. He is closer and we see him every few months. I think all of my kids will have memories of him.

Blogger Maggie said...
Sorry to hear about Tiny Papa. He's sounds like he was a great man. And what a blessing to know a great-grandparent!

I never knew either of my grandfathers, much less a great-grandparent. But I knew my grandmothers.

Mimi (my maternal grandmother), had lost her memory by the time I was born. She was gentle and quiet. When I would go visit she never knew who I was, but she knew I was one of her grandchildren. So she'd ask "Who are you?" Then "Who's are you?" (Wanting to know which of her children was my mother.) Then she'd pat my hand and all was fine. She was sweet. She passed when I was 9 years old.

Grandmas Mae on the other hand was vibrant and tough. She was a hoot. I remember her babysitting me and making me watch Lawrence Welk. She always had Fig Newtons and Nutter Butters. I really miss her. She passed when I was 12. She used to call, let it ring once, then hang up because it cost to make a local call from her apartment complex. So we always to call Grandma when the phone rang once. I couldn't tell you her phone number right now, but whenever the phone rings once and then stops Grandma's number always pops into my mind -- even after all these years.

(Sorry so long... I loved my grandmothers!)

Blogger Deb said...
Sorry for your loss. He does sound like a fun man to have the privledge to have known.
You are so strong Elle you encourage me.

I never knew my ggp. Barely knew some of my gp. But the family member that meant the most to me was my dad. As a family we became christians when I was about 4. The next year my dad moved us from PA to OK so he could go to Bible School. After the 2 yr program we moved back to PA and I officially became a PK (pastors kid). Those were fun years. My dad was a great pastor. Many years of happiness and serving God. He passed 2 years ago almost to the day. I still miss him like crazy and wish he were here to support our journey. But alas as you said this is a celebration. The one thing that I alwasy remember about my dad is what he would tell us every time we walked out the door to go be with friends or anything He would tell us "Remember who your Father is." Referring to the fact that God is watching us, of course if you knew my dad it worked both ways. He always scared my boy friends he was a big man.
I will tell our kids this as well. And I will tell them about their gpa they never met.
Great topic. Family is the best!

Blogger Rhyne & Jake said...
Truly sorry for your loss.

I was too young to have alot of memories of my great grandmas, but you know how fond I am of my Granny! She is my light, my rock, and my hero. She taught me how to cook, how to can vegetables and make jellies, and how to love unconditionally. She knits hats every year for the state orphange at Christmas time, and is knitting hats to send to Russia for the children. We took about 3 dozen and she wants to continue to send them if anyone is willing to carry any on their trips.

For me personally, my Grandparents are more special to me than my own parents.

Blogger Gaye and Andrew said...
Oh Elle & D...so sorry for the loss of your beloved Papa. Thanks for posting a few days ago on my blog about Roman's Great Grammy.

I never knew any of my biological Grandparents...or greats. My dad's parents died when he was very small and he grew up in an orphanage...one of the reasons we decided to adopt.

My mother died when I was just a few months old and her parents did not want to have anything to do with us afterwards...so, it was like they were not alive.

My stepmom's parents were my Grandma & Grandpa...they were wonderful and I loved them so much.

Anonymous Anonymous said...
awww Good night Papa. How wonderful to live 97 years!!

I never knew any of my Great Grandparents. My parents were close to 40 when I was born, so by then, even their parents were getting up there in age.

I have seen 1 or 2 pictures of my great grandparents on my Dad's side, and honestly I just love the picture. It was way back when they never smiled for photographs. He was a grouchy looking ol' man who had an "old west" look about him, due to the pistol he had holstered to his side! Next to him was this teeny ol' stoic looking woman who was my Great Grandmother. I don't really know anything about them, but I can imagine all sorts of things from this picture :) I have no idea when the picture was taken, but it was mostly likely the late 1800s... Gotta love old pictures :)

Blogger Yeah So said...
Sorry to hear about Tiny Papa but I'm sure he's reuinted with all the loved ones in his life. It's great you have so many memories of him. I never knew my great grandparents unfortunately.

Blogger Lauri said...
So Sorry for your loss. What a great way to pay homage to your Papa by telling stories & encouraging others to think of those they love. I never knew my great grandparents.

I lost my best friend to cancer in July 02. Suzanne was a sunny, warm, beautiful person. I was never good at making friends although I needed one so badly and like an angel Suzanne came into my life. She got Ill shortly after we met and fought like hell to live.

She taught me so much in such a short time. She was in my life for only two short years but forever changed the way I live my life. Because of her I had the courage to go after that scary job, leave that toxic relationship and give internet dating a try
( which Is how I landed my Hubby)


Lauri

Anonymous Anonymous said...
Sorry to hear this news this morning! You and your family are in my thoughts. Don't know if you remember this, but I met your Ggp several times as the nurse for his eye doctor. I got to see him couple of times a year and he was always so sweet and cooporative. Though the exam was a little slower, and um, louder (for me, wink!) than some, he was always so nice and fun.
As for me, I was priviledged to know 2 of my great grandmothers on my Mom's side. Both were beautiful, feisty, smart and loving women. I remember going to Great grandma B's old small, midwest town, going to the Dime Store where you could buy lip gloss, candy, toys for a few coins! I remember especially we would but that gooey rubber, toxic smelling stuff in a tube that you could blow up with a straw into bubble balls. I remember a lightheaded feeling with this activity and to this day don't know if it was from the blowing of the bubble or the toxic smell?
My other Great Grandma K lived next door to my grandparents, so we saw a lot of her. Loved her homemade Cherry Jam, bread, and the best Mac and Cheese I've ever tasted! She always had a story and her beautiful blue eyes would just twinkle! I'll never forget them. I'll also never forget the Coffee Nips she had on her sideboard.
I've rambled on I know, but you know how I feel about family. They are to be cherished, whether they are still with us or not!
Love , Lee

Anonymous Anonymous said...
so sorry for your loss. i was blessed to have MET 4 of my great-grandparents, although i only got to KNOW 1, my mom's beloved grandma. she was a beautiful woman, with a beautiful singing voice and a love of poetry. she died when i was 11. our son has only 1 living great-grandma (my beloved maternal grandmother), and at 80 she's "young" enough to enjoy him - hope she has as many years with us as your tiny papa! what a gift family is.

Blogger Jennefer said...
My mom is always saying what you said, funerals shouldn't be sad, they should be a celebration of that persons life. She said she wants her funeral to be a big party. Your great grampa sounds like he had a great life!

Anonymous Anonymous said...
Sorry for your loss, good night Tiny Papa. I agree, what a wonderful way to pay hommage to Tiny Papa then telling great stories.

I did meet my g-grandma on my mom's side but I was so little I can't remember it, I do have some pictures and my mom has so many stories to share. My g-grandma lived to 99, she passed 6 weeks before he 100th birthday, she still lived on her own, had a health care nurse that came in twice a week. She had fallen down just after her nurse had left and she didn't come back for 2 days so g-grandma had to lie there with a broken hip, she was in the hospital for about a month before she passed. Even though I don't remember her myself, I love the stories my mom tells me about her, she was a poet, she did this amazing lace work like macrame but very intricate.

Much love to you guys.

Blogger Suzanne said...
Yeah to knowing your great-granddad! and I'm happy he got to die peacefully.

I knew my great-grandma. She was rather scary. Her daughter -- my nana -- was a lovely grandma. She shaped me and loved me and taught me to bake and to be a lady and be strong. She died 30 years ago. I'm crying for her now. She lived in the Lord.

Blogger SoFlaMom said...
Elle,

I am so sorry for your loss. To celebrate great grandparents, I had the luxury on knowing 2 great grandma's. GGMa Sarah passed away when I was eight and my fondest memory is going over her house in Brooklyn on a hot summer day when they opened up the fire hydrents. What a blast for a kid, plus I was the center of attention. My other GGMa passed away when I was 24. She had the longevity to meet her great-great grandchild and we have a picture of the 5 generations (not SoFlaKid, my cuz's daughter). GGMa Lil was from Russia/Poland depending on who captured the border at the time. She came to the States at 13 all by herself because her parents were afraid of the Cossacks (sp?). She was our inspiration to adopt from Russia. She ate all the foods here that we encountered in Khab, borsht, blintzes, etc. I remember the smells of the foods that she ate and her Yiddish accent.

Celebrate Tiny Papa's life and cherish the memories to share with Pickle.

SoFlaMom

Blogger The Belanich's said...
I am so sorry for your loss... I never knew my great grand parents, or hardly any of my grandparents, unfortunately Longevity was not in their cards. Maybe that is why I work in a retirement community now, I have several grandparents! Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely,

Sandy B

Blogger Carrie said...
I’m so sorry to hear about your g-grandfather. It’s hard when the ones we love move on. My g-grandfather passed away 5 years ago. He was a farmer all his life. When he was in his early thirties, he was logging some timber off a field and was pinned by a huge log. His back was broken and he was told he would never walk again. He told them to go to hell; he had a family to support. He did indeed walk and work for another 55 years!

When my g-grandmother was put in a home due to advanced Alzheimer’s, he visited her every day. He made she got her favorite foods and brushed her hair everyday. They had been married for 64 years when she passed away and he only survived her by 1 year. Once she was gone he didn’t have anything to live for. He was a small, tough, grumpy guy with a heart of gold. I will always remember the lemon drops on his coffee table and the barrel of peanuts in his kitchen.

Blogger Jenni said...
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, and am thinking of you during this difficult time.

As for my great grand-parents, I only really knew one of them - my great-grandmother. However, I was really young when she died of skin cancer - 7, I think. And unfortunately, she didn't like kids much, so my memories of her are mostly of getting in trouble! (something my brother and I did often)

My grandfather is still alive, and luckily, I was able to take my kids to visit him this summer. They are his first great-grandkids, and he has told me a few times that he was only hanging around so that he could meet them. I hope this doesn't mean that now he thinks he can just fade away! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a few more meetings before he goes.

Blogger Lauren & Cupcake said...
SO sorry for your loss- I had four paternal great grandparents at birth. One passed when I was five. One when I was 16 who I was super close with. The other two made it to my first marriage. One made it to the second. They were all very important to me. They were as equal as my grandparents. However, I always have felt the loss of a great grand parent is a little less acknowledged because people tend to say things like you were so lucky ot even have them, or wow, they lived so long. As a family member their loss was so great despite their age. Lastly, I felt very lucky to have them It was so special they were able to tell us about their journey to America, and special it is to be American. The impact on my life was priceless.

Anonymous Anonymous said...
I'm sorry about your great grandfather. He's sounds like a special person. I knew my great grandmother (my mother's mother's mother). I remember a picture of the four of us that I thought was the greatest thing when I was 5 or 6. She died when I was still fairly young. My grandma (my mother's mother) was my special one. She died just over a year ago and I still miss her every day.
Isn't it fun to think about giving our soon-to-be children AND our parents the gift of each other?!

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